3 Smart Tactics To Use If Your In Laws Hate You
Sometimes getting along with your in laws can be difficult but what about if they really don’t like you no matter how nice you are to them and they are doing everything possible to make your life a living hell. What to do? Just like you do not choose family, you do not choose who your in-laws are.
At the beginning of the relationship, you try your best to make a good impression, be polite, be kind but for some reason no matter what you do, they don’t like you and they are not afraid to show it.
The thing is… they are not going anywhere so how do you deal with in laws who are constantly on your case and hating you?
DO NOT BECOME EMOTIONAL
I think the number one mistake people make is going attack-mode when their in laws are getting on, I know it is easier said than done but hear me out… when dealing with difficult people, you have to learn to control your emotions so the tactics that you need to use are going to be psychological rather than emotional. You can’t fight fire with fire.
So if they start getting on, simply leave the room, don’t sit down there and take whatever insults they want to dish out to you and if they want to look crazy, that’s their choice but don’t be part of it. Do NOT show that it is affecting you. People have emotional reactions because they expect an emotional response from you and they want an audience, take away the audience and you are taking away their power.
DO NOT SHARE INFORMATION
Information is power people! More you share, more ammunition you are giving to other people to use and abuse it in whatever way they see fit. My number one rule when communicating with difficult people is: Do not share anything you do not want everyone to know.
So keep your communication very simple, very polite, cordial and I will venture to say even trivial. You know, talk about the weather, the news, and things like that. Topics that cannot cause any sort of conflict or misunderstanding. Because at the end of the day, you know they will not change so you need to do things to keep the relationship polite and yet distant.
DO NOT TRY TO FIND OUT WHY THEY HATE YOU
Everyone would like to know why they are hated by someone particularly if you have done nothing wrong but sometimes when dealing with difficult people, trying to find out why they don’t like you can make things worse.
So don’t think about having a family conference or asking your spouse to find out because usually there is a lot of denial behind all of this do not waste any time trying to find out the reason, but just adapt your reaction and behaviour towards them in a way that will keep you sane and at the same time out of the drama zone.