How to Break Up With Someone And Don’t Feel like a Jerk
Breaking up with someone is never easy…unless the person has been horrible to you and in that case you feel relieved but what about if the other person is someone you care about deeply, but you are no longer in love? How do you end a relationship with someone you don’t want to see hurt?
So yes, let’s go straight to today’s topic.
How do you break up with someone and don’t feel like a jerk. I have 3 tips that I hope can help you.
ACCEPT THAT BREAKING UP WILL HURT
It is not going to be pain-free, the other person will feel hurt, it is completely normal so you will have to accept that. But the intensity of that hurt will also depend on how you approach it. Be gentle, be considerate, and be kind. Let the other person know how much you care about them and don’t be afraid to show your emotions. Hug together, cry together, let them know how important they have been in your life and that they will always have a special place in your heart. It is okay to feel sad when you are saying these things but with time, things will start improving for both of you and hopefully things will look a little better.
DON’T USE BOTTLED EXPRESSIONS
Expressions such as “It is not you, it’s me” are overused and they don’t come across as sincere. Talk from your heart, not from a script. If you really care about the person you will need to ensure that you say everything your heart desires and those words if they are said in honesty, they will be felt by the other person. So don’t use common expressions with the intention of trying to make things look better , be yourself because at the end of the day, the other person is deserving of your own words and not bottled expressions found on the internet.
The other person will already be in a vulnerable position so don’t add extra by showing any kind of pity for them. Nobody wants that, instead talk to the other person with the respect they deserve, as your equal, as someone you care about. The last thing someone wants in a position like that is to have the other person feeling sorry for them. Put yourself in their shoes and treat them in the way you would like to be treated if you were in their place.
The pain will be there, there is no doubt about it but with time things will improve and everyone will move on. Hope these little tips can help you navigate this difficult time.