3 Things You Should Never, Ever Tell Your Children
If you are a parent, you know how much you love your child. Whether they are little children or they are already adults, the special bond that exists between a parent and a child is extremely important. But parenthood is far from perfect and many times out of frustration, anger, or stress you might say things you shouldn’t say. Remember, children are like sponges, whatever you tell them they are, they absorb and they become.
Home is the place where our children build their self-esteem so I compiled 3 things you should never, ever tell your children.
I DON’T KNOW WHY I HAD YOU
This expression comes in many other ways “I wish you were never been born” “I don’t know why I decided to have you” or similar expressions. They are the most hurtful and harmful things you could ever tell a child. They should never ever have to hear those words from those who are supposed to love and care for them not only physically but also emotionally. They should hear words such as “You are the most important treasure in my life” “The day you were born was the happiest moment I’ve ever felt”.
NO WONDER NOBODY LIKES YOU
This is another very damaging expression that will make your child feel completely hopeless because if even your own mom or dad doesn’t like you, why would anyone would? A child needs to feel both, that they loved but also liked. A child should hear encouraging words such as “I understand you are going through a hard time, how can I help?” “I am here if you need to talk”. If you are trying to correct behaviour, let them figure out whether their choice was correct or not by asking questions such as: “How that choice made you feel?” If they are not ready to talk, give them space and time.
YOU CAN’T DO ANYTHING RIGHT
Children try their very best, and adults put so many expectations to children like if they are adults. But they are not adults, they are still developing. They are still learning and they will commit lots of mistakes just like we do. We want them to do everything right, we expect them to make the right choices at all times and when it doesn’t happen, the child is told “You can’t do anything right”. Your words should always build up your child sense of worth because they already have to endure the harsh reality out there so home should be a place where they feel contained, loved, cared for and where they can be free to be themselves without judgment.
We are all doing the best we can and we all want to be the best parents we can possibly be, so I hope these tips can help you. 🙂